A 17 year old girl was performing (singing) at a concert. She did a great job, but one of the adults in the front row of the concert kept making faces (as if she *wasn't* doing a great job). The girl, with fragile self-esteem at age 17, now feels she did a terrible job and is embarrassed and upset.
I'm sure we all have stories like this in our lives. We tend to focus on the negatives we hear or perceive about ourselves and not the positives.
I would like us all to take a moment to think about a compliment or a positive thing we have been told, heard about ourselves or feel toward ourselves.
Let's try to minimize and ignore the negative thoughts and actions of others toward us. As Don Miguel Ruiz says "nothing anyone ever does or says is about you." ~ The Four Agreements.
I would really love to have some of the people who pop in and read this blog share one thing, one compliment, one positive thought, one happy feeling. Maybe even encourage others to come here and share a thought or compliment.
Let's try to drown out all the negative and not-true things we have heard or told ourselves and replace them with positives.
Here are a couple of things I have been told over the years:
- I make cooking look easy.
- I have the most well-stocked kitchen.
- I have beautiful eye lashes.
- I am so sweet/kind/caring.
- I am an excellent cook.
- I make people feel welcome in my home.
These are just a few of the nice and complimentary things people have said about or to me. There are more, but I want to hear yours.
Share with me a compliment, or something positive, someone has said about you or told you.
Please don't try to justify or minimize or reason the compliment; just share with me! We are all beautiful and wonderful people in one way or another. We all have unique talents or things that others admire us for. Let us take a moment to focus on those positive and good things and work to ignore and quiet those less than positive and complimentary voices in our heads.
3 comments:
I am sweet.
I have a sexy Texas twang to my voice.
I make the best ham and mashed potatoes.
Sexy Texas twang! I like it! Thanks for sharing Christy.
Here are a few I have been provided privately:
"Boy, you can really hold your liquor."
"I like the way you look. Is that a new bra?"
"You know how to tickle my funny bone."
"Damn, you're fast."
So the point really isn't the words, the compliment itself, but rather how it makes us feel! Just as a nasty look can create so much emotion within us, the same is true for the positive or the happy.
You never know what you will say to someone, young or old, that they will remember forever. That will hang in their head and their heart, good or bad, for their life time.
Be cautious with your words and use them only to lift others up. It is something we all can work on. I know I can!!
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